How’s your sex life?  Is it all that it can be?  A 2010 Valentine’s Day online article revealed that the average person has sex 5,100 times in their life.  Now, assuming that the average person’s first time was at age 15 and an average life expectancy of 75 years, quick math puts that at 85 times per year or about 7 times per month.  So, in the words of Wendy Williams – the lovable daytime talk show host – when it comes to you and your sex life, “How you doin’?”  If you find that your sex life is in the below average category or if you’re simply open to a bit of coaching, here are a few tips to help spice it up just a tad.

Show us sexy! David & Victoria Beckham (Photo from www.ohlalaparis.com)

Work that body, work that body.  Make sure you don’t hurt nobody.
Last June, Men’s Health Magazine ranked the 100 most sedentary cities in America.  Lexington, Kentucky won this dubious honor.  Seattle, Washington came in as the most active city.  Chicago came in at 31.  New York city at 33.  The study took into account reported hours of television watching, where and how people exercised and the rate of deaths from deep-vein thrombosis, a condition linked to a lot of sitting.  I’m not sure whether the report considered the fact that people could be watching television while on a treadmill or running but, taking it at face value, one can’t help thinking that the active people in Seattle are having lots of sex.  The people in Lexington?  Well, not so much.  The more we exercise, the better we feel about our bodies and ourselves.  WebMD reports that improved self-esteem is a key psychological benefit of regular physical activity.  Add to this the endorphins that are released and we are well on our way to love land.  When we look good and feel good we are much more likely to want to “get busy,” so kick up your exercise routine a notch or two.  Or three.

Get creative.
Even the best sex can get mundane after thousands of occurrences.  No problem.  Spice it up with a couple of new positions.  Now, unless your lover is an Olympic gymnast, I wouldn’t suggest any contortionist positions.  But if missionary is your “go to” move, leave that one in the locker room for a week or two and see what happens.  My suggestion?  Walk up behind her while she’s standing at the kitchen sink and kiss her, lightly, on the back of her neck.  Make sure she’s not holding her great grandmother’s antique china because dropping that could kill the mood.  If she’s cooing at your attempt at creativity, keep going.  Lightly massage her shoulders and neck area.  Keep it sexy.  The point is to be sensual, not to give her a full fledged massage.  As with all things, pay attention to her cues.  If she’s oohing and ahhing and saying “oh my god that feels so good,” continue.  If she’s tapping her finger on the side of the sink and asking “are you done yet?” this may not be the best time to employ my great advice.  You guys may have a couple of other things to work out before trying this one again.

Sharpen your ax.
Why not read up a bit on exactly how to make love?  There are a myriad of online articles on the subject.  Pick a few and read them.  The 10 best ways to kiss.  The top 5 ways to please your lady.  Etc etc etc.  What’s wrong with taking a class?  Fellatio may not be your thing but I promise you, your man would show new signs of life if you signed up for a class on it.  Just sayin’.  No matter how great we think we are at sex, it never hurts to put forth the effort to get even better at it.  The sky is the limit!  And if you plan on being the last woman that your man has sex with, a little continuing education isn’t out of the question.  I hope you feel me…

Work on your bedside manner.
If you usually talk about nonsexy topics in bed, do less of that.  Telling me that the Dow dropped another 200 points today doesn’t make me want to ravish you.  Also, try to use your inside voice while in the bed.  It’s very sexy when a lady speaks in hushed tones or in a whisper in bed, instead of yelling as if I was in the next room.  “I’m right here, baby.  I’m right next to you.”  Keeping bedtime conversation to a minimum is a great sex enhancer but, if a conversation is necessary, try whispering.  At the very least, he’ll have to lean in to hear what the heck you’re saying.  And that could be the beginning of a marvelous night indeed.

Bobby Brooks is no stranger to heartbreak.  And now this Chicago heartthrob speaks about his trials and tribulations with the opposite sex.  Help him discover more by “communicating” with Bobby on facebook and twitter.