So it seems that some people are so excited to have the children in their extended family at their wedding and have a ton of flower girls and ring bearers, even finding new jobs for children, like holding up signs during the ceremony saying “Please turn off your cell phones”.
This is certainly a good attitude and makes for great photos and some memorable moments during the ceremony and great dancing photos at the reception.
Then there is the “no kids” camp. They don’t want to pay $30+ for a plate chicken nuggets and have the camera on the cute little girl on the dance floor instead of them. They want their day to be about them and how they look in their fabulous dress. It’s not that they don’t love children and hope to have some well behaved ones in their future, it’s just about them on that big day.
Couples ask: “How do you make it clear that kids are NOT allowed?”
There are a few ways. So the people listed on the envelopes are the only guests invited, but sometimes that’s not enough. Then we suggest putting “Number of Adults Attending ___” on the reply card. Or “Adult Reception to Follow” on the main invitation.
I do believe it’s tacky and pretty rude to just state “no kids allowed” but some families don’t do subtle and need their guests to be hit over the head with it and then still think they can bring them.
It’s always great to ask your planner about setting up a baby-sitting service in a room at the venue if kids become an issue or end up attending the reception even though they are not welcome!
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